On abusive relationships

Lately I have been giving a lot of ponder to the reasons why some people keep getting into abusive romantic relationships. Its almost like they aren't able to gauge the the emotional tendencies of the other person...

I think that while every relationship has the potential to turn abusive, there might be certain signs that help ascertain whether this potential might be actualized. For one, the power dynamics in abusive relationships are covertly tilted towards one partner over the course of time. Demands made from and restrictions placed on a significant other emanating from feelings of suspicion or low self-esteem but cloaked in the guise of love serve to thwart the independence of the significant other. This in turn leads to emotional stifling and a constant fear related to displeasing the partner. Communication patterns might eventually be spiked by covert hostility, distrust, and lack of respect for the partner. I consider mutual respect as the mark of a healthy relationship, and if that is violated in any manner, then any potential positives of the relationship are beyond my comprehension. This lack of respect might be manifested by dismissing the significant other's opinions, frequent criticism and derision for their actions, and failing to take the other person's opinions into account while making a decision about the relationship, among other things. In fact. these tell-tale signs can sometimes become so glaringly obvious to a neutral observer that you would often wonder why the relationship still continues. Is it merely because the two people have become so used to this abusive pattern so that they don't realize it for themselves and break out of it? Or might it be possible that there is awareness of things gone awry, but adjusting to an alternative way of being seems tedious and unreal?

Any relationship ideally adds more dimensions to a person's life. But this addition would be possible only if there already exists a sufficiently strong base of self-assurance. To wish for another person to weave the magic wand and fill the emotional voids you possess could well turn out to be a wish gone horribly wrong. For both of you.

Quality Vs. Quantity ?

The last post by SoaringHeights reminded me of how frail our mental health system is, not only in terms of the type of rehabilitation used, but also in the lack of any evidence of mental health system.

Over the years I've been blogging on mental health, I've come across many individuals who seek help (or sometimes I force them to). A couple of years back, I had a certain individual contact me with his suicidal feelings. I talked him into visiting a psychiatrist. There was none available near the place he stayed, and no helping hand to take him there. His self-evident psychosis made it all the more difficult for me to persuade him. We exchanged quite a few mails on this issue. We talked about other issues as well, about his ongoing studies. I sent him a couple of mails later, with no reply...

Another individual, who just tends to leave abusive messages on every blog I ever wrote on or still write, seriously needs psychiatric help for his, again, self-evident psychosis. I moderate all posts to maintain a healthy blog for all. I have made the sincerest efforts to push him for help. Not knowing his whereabouts, there's not much I can do. Against all my hopes, I do hope he doesn't end up stopping sending these comments...

With less than 4,000 mental health workers in India, mainly concentrated in the 5 metros, there's no scope for treatment for those just 100kms (<50 miles) outside these metros. The system in India, as I mentioned earlier, is much better in terms of quality but highly lacks in its quantity. And economics has a huge role to play in this. It becomes increasingly difficult for people outside the above-mentioned areas to pay for the consultation fee, leave alone the medication!

Beyond routines

Reading through a newsletter edited by Puzli for a support group of families of people with mental illness, I was struck by the specificity of the questions regarding various aspects of caregiving raised by the participants. Most questions pertained to routine activities like hygeine which were perceived as struggles to be accomplished successfully. So much so that it seemed like the families had overlooked the need for rebuilding the foundations that provide fodder for regaining the emotional and spiritual integrity that often gets lost within the realms of the illness.

Contemporary methods of mental rehabilitation emphasize a linear path of achievement of routine milestones before nurturing of greater human needs. But might it be possible that many of us posses the capability of simultaneously attaining development in multiple arenas? So, instead of construing psychosocial rehabilitation as an addendum to the general agenda of medical rehabilitation, it would perhaps be wise to become aware of the strength of the subtleties lent by psychosocial rehabilitation which are so essential in contributing to the unique identity of every individual. Re-establishing these emotional and spiritual sensibilities can actually be a step towards re-integration of the hazy personal identities mired by mental illness.

About confidentiality and competence

I am subscribed to an online group of counsellors and the posts range from job postings, to mental health trivia and information, to case discussions.

I remember being taught that one of the central tenets of a therapeutic relationship with a client was maintenance of confidentiality about the client's identity and disclosures. However, as we were still learning, we were permitted to have our case discussions with our supervisors and professors to gain a perspective. I now wonder the limits to which this exception in confidentiality is stretched. In the group I subscribe to, therapists often discuss cases to overcome roadblocks in case progression. And the responses range from ill-informed (sometimes dogmatic) opinions to those that serve to be genuinely helpful. Recently, there has been furor regarding the particularly graphic description of a sensitive case, and the exasperating part was that the original poster was quite oblivious about her gaffe. I don't know if this emanates from a lack of adequate training, or work ethic, or even both.

The current training at Masters level in Psychology over most of India is appalling in its lack of standards. The syllabus is redundant and the process towards achieving change is mired in bureaucracy. There is a severe shortage of adequate number of qualified and skilled professors to impart knowledge. Supervisors in field work are pressed for time and might not feel the sense of responsibility of overlooking the work of their juniors.

I believe that competence in practice of mental health should be governed by stringent qualifying criteria, so that the practice is not offered by all-and-sundry. Tackling the problem of incompetent mental health service delivery should begin from the grass-root level of competitive education and proceed upwards to competent training. Its high time consumers of mental health ask for accountability and competent service delivery.

Listing of NGOs working in the Mental Health Sector

This state-wise listing is by no means comprehensive and neither do we personally guarantee the credibility of the institutions. Rest assured, they are working for all of us, and I hope they serve us well. We have made our best efforts to get the latest updated contact information. Take care!

Other Informative Sites

Search the website http://www.ngosindia.com and http://www.justdial.com, using keywords like “Mental Health” OR “Mental Illness” OR “Mental Disability” for state-wise listings of more NGOs/Help-lines/Psychiatric Institutions

Alphabetical (State-wise)

Andhra Pradesh


SEWA (Social Education & Welfare Association)

Address –

Kurmayapalli( V)

Budithireddipalli( P)

via: Yadamari, Chittoor(dist), Andhra Pradesh - 517422

Contact Info -

Mobile: +91-98854 15037

Email: vreddysatheesh@gmail.com

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BSRF - Byrraju Foundation

Address - Satyam Enclave 2-74, Jeedimetla Village NH-7, Secunderabad - 500855, Hyderabad (Andhra Pradesh) India
Contact Person - Dr. JOHNSEY THOMAS

Contact Info -

Phone Nos : +91-040-23191725, 23193881/82 (10 am - 4:00 pm)

Fax: +91-40-23191726
E-mail: mail@byrrajufoundation.org
Website - www.byrrajufoundation.org/

Byrraju Foundation
Address - Venkatraju Nagar , Near Youth Club, J P Road, Bhimavaram - 534 204, West Godavari (Dist)
Andhra Pradesh, India

Phone Nos: +91-8816-251340, 251360

Byrraju Foundation
Address - Bhatnavalli (v), Opp-KIMS Hospital, Amalapuram- 533 222, East Godavari (Dist), Andhra Pradesh, India

Phone Nos: +91-8856-233000, 253533, 230307

Byrraju Foundation
Address - Via Ponnur, Pittalavanipalem Mandal, Khazipalem- 522 329, Guntur (Dist), Andhra Pradesh , India

Phone Nos: +91-8643-258586


Assam

Ashadeep

Address - ASHA DEEP, Islampur Road, Gandhi Basti , Guwahati – 781 003, Assam, India

Contact Person –

Mukul Goswami: +91- 94350 43308
Anjana Goswami: +91- 98640 77861

Contact Info –

Phone Nos: +91-361-2666794

E-mail - societyashadeep@yahoo.com

Website - http://ashadeepindia.org


Chandigarh

AATMA SHAKTI KENDRA


Address (Regd. Office) - Karuna Sadan, Sector 11-B, Chandigarh, India

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-172-746160
Mobile: +91-98150-69700
Fax : +91-172-576900

E-mail : ask_chandigarh@rediffmail.com

Website : www.ChandigarhNewsLine.com/AskChandigarh


Delhi

Ashray Rehabilitation Home

Address - Singhu Border Road, Narela, Delhi – 110040

Contact Person – Dr. Gurmukh Singh, +91-9891260359

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Caring Foundation

Address - 35 Defence Enclave, Vikas marg, New Delhi – 110092, India

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-011-43666666

Fax: +91- 011-22524726

E-mail: Caringfoundation95@yahoo.com

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Mental Health Foundation India
Address - RZF-766/41, RAJ NAGAR, PART-II, GALI NO. 6, PALAM COLONY, New Delhi - 110 045

Contact Person - Dr.Nand Kumar
Phone Work - 26166596 (6 t0 8 pm)
Phone Cell - 9899943146 (6 to 8 pm)

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91- 9899943146 (office time)
E-mail: indiamhf@yahoo. co.in
Website: www.mhf.org.in


Gujarat

Athma Viswas Sansthalay (Half-way Home)

Address – Behind Swami Narayan English School, Sona Sarita Society, Manibaug, Dharampur Road, Valsad, Gujarat – 396001

Contact Person –

Bipin Milia (Trustee): +91-022-26702755 (R), +91-022-26205530 (O), +91-9821537662

Sonia Mackwani (Managing Trustee): 65162697, +91-9221339756

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-2632-226355

E-mail: bipinmilia@hotmail.com

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Andhjan Kalyan Trust

Address – Behind Jain Derasar, Station Plot, Dhoraji - 360 410, Rajkot, Gujarat , India

Contact Info –

Phone: +91-2824-223502
Fax: +91-2824-223502

E-mail – aktrust@sancharnet.in, info@aktrust.org

Website: http://www.aktrust.org/


Karnataka

Athma Shakti Vidyalaya Society

Address - No. 113, Madhuban Colony, Hulimavu Village, BANGALORE - 560 076, India

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-80-6581 564 / +91-80-6585 292

E-mail: frhanknunn@hotmail.com

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The Richmond Fellowship Society

Address - 'ASHA' 501, 47th Cross, 9th Main, V block, Jayanagar, Bangalore - 560 041, Karnataka

Contact Person - Dr S. Kalyanasundaram

Contact Info -
Phone Nos: +91-80-26645583, 26346734
Email: rfsindia@vsnl.com
Website: http://www.rfsindia.org



Madhya Pradesh

Samarpan - Samarpan Care Awareness & Rehabilitation Centre
Address - 8, Narayan Bagh, Indore – 452 004, Madhya Pradesh

Contact Person - Mr. Avinash Bhatheja
Phone Work - 4965560 (10-4)
Phone Cell - 09827740999 (10-6)

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-0731- 4965560 (10 am - 5 pm)
E-mail: samarpanindia@ yahoo.co. in, info@samarpanindia.org
Website – http://www.samarpanindia.org

Day Care Centre - Arpan

Address - 18-B Navratan Bagh, Indore- (M.P.)

Phone Nos: +91-731-4046336

Half Way Home - Aasra

Executive Office: 61, Dhar Kothi, Indore- (M.P.)
Phone Nos: +91-731-2710931


Maharashtra

Alzheimer's & Related Disorders Society Of India-ARDSI

Address - ARDSI,Mumbai Chapter,Room No - 27, BMC School Bldg,2nd Floor, J J Hospital Compound, Byculla, Byculla (E), Mumbai – 40008, Maharashtra

Contact Nos -

Phone Nos: +91-022-23742479 (11 to 4)

E-mail: sailesh2000_2000@yahoo.co.uk, drshirin@rediffmail.com

Contact Person - Dr.Shirin Barodawala

Phone Work - +91-23513253 (9 to 5)

Phone Cell - +91-9820074476 (10 to 4)

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ANAND REHABILITATION CENTRE

Address - Vidula Apartment, Ram Laxman Marg, Panchal Nagar, Near ST Bus Stand, Nallasopara (West),
Taluka: Vasai, Dist: Thane 401 203, Mumbai, Maharashtra

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-2414145 / 2415555 /code from Mumbai-95250-STD Code: 0250

A PROJECT OF
PROMPT CARE INTERNATIONAL FOUNDATION

Address - 8/203,204, Liliyangar, off S.V.Road, Near Kamat Club, Goregaon (West) Mumbai 400 062, Maharashtra

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-28748043

Fax: +91-28757051

Email: pcif@vsnl.com

Website: www.pcif.org

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Shraddha Rehabilitation Foundation

Registered Office

Address - Shraddha Manosarovar, Behind Shanti Ashram, Opposite Eskay Resorts, Off New Link Road, Borivali – West, Mumbai-400103, Maharashtra, India

Contact Info –

Phone Nos: +91-22-28955020 / 28915451 / 65852628


REHABILITATION CENTRE

Contact Person – Dr. Bharat Vatvani

Address – Vangaon Village, 2 kms from Karjat Station, Karjat (East), Raigad, Maharashtra

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-99230 76947 / +91-02148-202741

E-mail - svatwani@hotmail.com, doctors@shraddharehabilitationfoundation.org

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MBA Foundation
G.O.D.S’ HEAVENS

Address - Crystal Palace Complex, Rambaug, Powai, Mumbai 400 076, Maharashtra, India

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-2857 6972 / 2570 2018
Tele-Fax : 2857 4456.
Email : crbmanian@lifeCare-disabled.org, lifecare.disabled@gmail.com
Website: www.lifecare-disabled.org

DAY CARE CENTERS

G.O.D.S SMILES

Address - C 1/1, Jeevan Naiya Co-op. Hsg. Society, Behind Telephone Exchange, Chembur Naka, Chembur, Mumbai – 400 074

Contact Info -
Phone Nos: +91-22-25234752

ROTARY G.O.D.S GIFT
Address - Rotary Club of Thane North End, Khopri Bridge, Thane East

Contact Nos -
Phone Nos: +91-22- 69956878

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Silver Inning Foundation

Address - Mumbai, India

Contact Info -

Tel: +91- 99871 04233

E-mail: info@silverinnings.com

Website - www.silverinnings.com

Contact Person - Sailesh Mishra , Founder President

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Dilaasa – Self-Help Support Group

Address – Masina Hospital, Byculla, Mumbai (Dr. Matcheswala’s Counseling Center)

Contact Person –

Prashant Pednekar: +91-9920644723

Jatish Shah: 9819533496

Contact Info –

Phone Nos: +91-022-64507171

E-mail: Shah_jatish@hotmail.com

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Kiran Mental Health Association (Schizophrenia Support Group)

Phone Nos: +91-022-22671744

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Bapu Trust (Pune)

Contact Person - Ms. Bhargavi Davar/Puja

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-92255 20464, +91-020-26837644/647

E-mail Address: bvdavar@gmail.com

Website: www.camhindia.org

Center for Advocacy in Mental Health

Address - Kapil Villa, Plot no. 9, Survey No. 50/4, Kondhwa Khurd, Pune-411048

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-020-26837644/47
Email: wamhc@dataone.in, info@camhindia.org

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Institute for Psychological Health-IPH

Address - 9th Floor, Shree Ganesh Darshan, LBS Marg, Between 3 Petrol Pumps & Hari Nivas Junction, Naupada, Thane (west). 400602. Maharashtra, India

Contact Person - Mr.Prasad Dabholkar
Phone Work - 25366577 (9 to 5)

Contact Info -

Phone Nos: +91-022-2543 3270 / 2536 6577 / 2542 8183 / 98702 96694
E-mail: iph@healthymind. org, maitra@healthymind.org
Website: www.healthymind.org


Incomplete / Unconfirmed Info -

Chitanya Mental Health Care Centre
Address - 25 Pitruchaaya Laxmi Park Colony, Navi Peth, Pune - 411030
Contact Info -

Chaitanya Mental Health Care Centre

Address - #9, Samalka Park, Kondhwa Budruk, National Institute of Bank Management, Pune-411048


Orissa

PEOPLE'S FORUM

Address - 44-Dharma Vihar, Khandagiri Sqr, Bhubaneswar, Orissa,India-751030

Contact Info -

Phone Nos : 0674- 2384594 (9am -6pm)

Tel/Fax: 06742351688

E-mail: peoplesforum@hotmail.com

Website: http://www.missionashra.org

Contact Person - Mr.Gobinda Pattanaik
Phone Work - 2384594 (9am-6pm)
Phone Cell - 9437282034 (6am-9pm)


Rajasthan

Ma Madhuri Brij Varish Seva Sadan

Address - Achnera Village, Bajhera, Bharatpur – 321001, Rajasthan, India

Contact Person - Dr.B.M. Bhardwaj
Phone Work - 05644-224694 (Any time)
Phone Cell - 9414714493

Contact Info -
Phone Nos: +91-5644- 224694 (10am - 6pm)
E-mail: mmbvss@gmail. com
Website - www.mmbvss.org


Tamil Nadu

Anbaham - Trust for education and rehabilitation of disabled orphaned destitute
Address - ANBAHAM, vichoor main road,vichoor, Chennai – 600103, Tamil Nadu

Contact Person - Mr.mohammed rafi
Phone Cell - 09444009988 (9-19 hours)

Contact Info -
Phone Nos : +91-044- 25015165 (11-12.noon)
E-mail: anbagam.org@ gmail.com, vinodcv@hotmail. com
Website: www.anbaham.org

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Schizophrenia Research Awareness Foundation (India)
SCARF

Address – R-7A North Main Road, Anna Nagar West (Extn.), Chennai 600 101, Tamil Nadu, India

Contact Info –

Phone Nos: + 91-44-2615 3971, + 91- 44-2615 1073

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The Banyan

Address – 6th Main Road, Mugappair Eri Scheme, Mugappair west, Chennai-600037

Contact Info –

Phone Nos: +91-044–26530504 / 45548350 / 51 / 52
Fax: 044 – 26530105

THE BANYAN CENTRE

Address – 18/55 Vinobaji Street, opp Kamaraj 4th Street, Gandhi Salai, Choolaimedu
(Take road opposite Bata Showroom on Nelson Manickam Road, adjacent to Pantaloons.
5th right, 1st left, 1st right)

Contact Info –

Phone Number: 42233666

BALM
Banyan Health Centre,

Address – 2/242, Pillayar Koil Street, Kovalam Village, Kancheepuram – 603112

Contact Info –

Website - www.thebanyan.org

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Trust Shantivanam

Contact Person - Dr. K.Ramakrishnan, c/o The Athma Mind Centre and Institute of Neuro-Psychiatry

Address - 12B, 10th Cross East, Thillainagar, Trichy, Tamil Nadu - 620018

Contact Info -

Phone: +91-431-2741529, +91-9894722221

E-mail: krk.trust@gmail.com

Website: http://www.trustshanthivanam.org/


West Bengal

Anjali

Address - P-23, Darga Road,Park Circus, Kolkota – 700017, West Bengal

Contact Person - Ms. Ratnaboli Ray
Phone Work - 22903711 (11-5 pm)
Phone Cell - 98311823981 (11-5 pm)

Contact Info -
Phone Nos: +91- 033- 22903711 (11-5pm)
E-mail: anjali_mhi@vsnl. net
Website: www.anjalimentalhealth.org

Quick Update

We are busy working and compiling, and shall soon be posting a list of NGO's working in the Mental Health sector in India, hopefully by the 16th of August. Hope it helps those who need mental health assistance like day-care centers, and rehabilitation centers especially for the elderly.

The listing will be in a new post, accessible through a new "NGO's" label, as well as the "Links" section in the sidebar.

Take care and all the best! :)